Are you organizing or building a clique?
Signs that you are building a clique:
1. When a new person comes to a meeting, you are sharing inside jokes with your friends, which mean nothing to the new person.
2. When a new person comes to a meeting you are discussing personal matters the entire time.
3. When a new person comes to a meeting you do not ask the person’s name.
4. You use icebreakers instead of actual conversations to get to know each other.
5. When a new person comes to a meeting, you do not explain to them what is on the group’s agenda.
6. When a new person comes to a meeting, you do not help them plug into the group’s work.
7. When a new person comes to a meeting, you do not explain the group’s politics.
8. When a new person comes to a meeting, you fail to ask them some basic questions:
a. What is your name?
b. How did you hear about the meeting?
c. Do you live around here? and how long have you lived here for?
d. What got you interested in this kind of political work?
e. What do you do for a living?
f. Don’t be afraid to talk about politics with new people. If it is a police brutality meeting, ask them about the conversations
happening in the news or the movement.
This is just a basic list. But getting to know a new person is one way to build a connection, show that you give a damn, and actually break the ice.
9. Classic signs that the new person will never come back are the following:
a. They are checking their phones frequently. This is the ultimate time killer in awkward moments when a person is feeling no one wants to talk to them.
b. They say they will get back to you when you ask if you can come to the next ‘event.’